Oh my goodness. Is it possible something... GOOD happened?!?!?!
It is possible. Yesterday morning I found out I was accepted to a certain master's program that I liked, with a $5,000/semester scholarship! I was really excited because I had basically given up on the idea that I would be able to get my doctorate because I had been waitlisted at every school I had heard back from, so knowing that I had this option plus funding was great. It didn't really lift my mood that much, however.
Then at about 8pm, I checked one of the doctoral program's website and found out that I HAD BEEN ACCEPTED! Now THAT lifted my mood! I was so excited and surprised and happy. I don't think I have felt those feelings for... actually, I can't remember the last time I felt that happy. So after telling my parents I called my boyfriend, RU. I told him the good news and he was very happy for me. Then he said "When I saw you called I thought you had news, and when I picked up and you weren't crying I figured it was good news." That's pretty funny.
Then this morning, my dad asked me whether I care what feedback I get from School F, my first choice school that I'm still waiting to hear from. I said yes, because it was still my first choice. (School F is also where my sister A goes. For the sake of this paragraph, I will call the school I was accepted to School L.) He asked me why, so I told him my reasons: earlier contact with the clinical population, better location, better internship rates, better reputation. So he said "But it's really stressful there. A is always busy, always running around. School L is a lot more laid back." I said, "On what do you base that opinion?" "I don't know, it just seems more laid back."
Thanks dad. I was feeling great about being accepted into a doctoral program, and now you tell me that you don't think I am capable of handling hard work? And not only that, you imply that my sister A can handle hard work better than me? You tell me that I should strive to go to a "laid back" program instead of the best program I can get into, one that I also really would like to go to? Also, you make stuff up to back up your argument? You really have no idea how to interact with, encourage, or support me, do you?
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6 comments:
First, congratulations for being accepted. I am really glad and not surprised. I am sure that you will get into the other program as well. The scholarship is also great news.
As far as the dad goes, I somehow how think that he was belittling you. I think that he perhaps has this protective attitude towards you. Parents seem to have a hard time not being protective and like it or not, he will think of you as his little girl for the rest of his live.
NOSSY you are totally capable. Poo poo your dad!
C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S !!!!
Hugs my dear.
So excited for you! The fact that you have been accepted and have a scholarship shows your totally capable!
I can understand your frustration with your father. So many people give me advice like that. That I should take it easy, not do too much, be careful where I go, etc. I think most of the time they mean well and just don't know what to say or how to help. But it is still so annoying and infuriating to me.
Anyway, I think you are awesome. I think you can go to any school you want and succeed!
xx, C
So excited for you! The fact that you have been accepted and have a scholarship shows your totally capable!
I can understand your frustration with your father. So many people give me advice like that. That I should take it easy, not do too much, be careful where I go, etc. I think most of the time they mean well and just don't know what to say or how to help. But it is still so annoying and infuriating to me.
Anyway, I think you are awesome. I think you can go to any school you want and succeed!
xx, C
I am so happy you were accepted. That is totally great news. Sorry your dad just doesn't get it. You are going to great where ever you go to school!
CONGRATS!!!
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